Think what it's like to live with domestic viole


Don't mistake delay for denial by life.
Have you've never experienced
domestic violence it can be difficult to imagine just what those affected have to go through.

We all know what a bully is...

Just imagine living with a bully all the time, but being too scared to leave.

Just imagine being afraid to go to sleep at night, being afraid to wake up in the morning.

Just imagine being denied food, warmth or sleep. Imagine being punched, slapped, hit, bitten, pinched and kicked.

Just imagine being pushed, shoved, burnt, strangled, raped, beaten.

Just imagine having to watch everything you do or say in case it 'upsets' the person you live with - or else you'll be punished.

Just imagine having to seek permission to go out, to see your friends or your family or to give your children a treat.

Just imagine being a prisoner in your own home - imagine being timed, when you go out to the shops.

Just imagine that you believe what he tells you - that it's your fault. That if only you were a better mother, lover, housekeeper, kept your mouth shut, could only keep the children quiet, dressed how he liked you to, kept in shape, gave up your job - somehow things would get better.

Just imagine that you don't know where to get help, what to do, or how to leave.

Just imagine that you can't face the shame of admitting what's really going on to family or friends.

Just imagine his threats if you dare to say you will leave. How could you ever find the strength to leave? Will you ever be safe again?

Just imagine threats to find and kill you and your children, wherever you go.

Just imagine permanent injuries and sometimes death.

"Well 'I don't think people who have never suffered violence can understand the trauma of being the victim of violent behaviour, nor the difficulties involved in trying to escape from that behaviour."

Often the reason is precisely that - the cumulative effect of repeated physical and psychological trauma destroys confidence and self-belief. Imagine what life would be like if a violent attacker had the key to your front door…and just imagine how powerless you would feel if your partner had threatened not only you but your whole family. The impact of continued abuse in intimate relationships can be devastating. Women escaping these horrific circumstances can often be heard to say, "but he loves me it’s my fault.I keep making mistakes"

Do you know what is domestic violence?




Well it goese like this...

Domestic violence is a pattern of controlling and aggressive behaviours from one adult, usually a man, towards another, usually a woman, within the context of an intimate relationship.


It can be physical, sexual, psychological or emotional abuse. Financial abuse and social isolation are also common features.


The violence and abuse can be actual or threatened and can happen once every so often or on a regular basis.


It can happen to anyone, and in all kinds of relationships - heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender. People suffer domestic violence regardless of their social group, class, age, race, disability, sexuality or lifestyle. The abuse can begin at any time - in new relationships or after many years spent together.


Children are affected by domestic violence both in the short and the long term.
less frequently still wholly unacceptable, men are abused by their partners, both male and female.


All forms of abuse - psychological, economic, emotional and physical - come from the abuser’s desire for power and control.


“I ask you to have patience and compassion for victims of domestic violence. It is important to realize women stay with abusers for many reasons. Judging and placing blame on victims only drives them farther into silence. Please remember, leaving an abuser is not a decision, it’s a process. Stick it out, be supportive of your friend, family member or coworker. You may be their only hope.”

A true Story "Call the slow burn"


"I'd been with Nick for about two years and he had been quite controlling in his attitude towards me, but never violent.
I don't know how this happened. It was probably over something quite trivial, but one time he started punching and kicking me.
I fell onto the floor and he carried on punching and kicking me, up and down my spine.
By the time he was violent, I lost the ability to think independently and logically. His behavior before that had been one of chipping away at my self esteem. I was more aware of how he was feeling than of how I was feeling.
I really believed that I would never escape alive. I had commitment, I loved this man and I always thought I was bigger than this. He would never say, "yes, I behaved badly" or "yes, I am violent."
I started to understand what people call the slow burn, when women murder their partners. I thought if he wasn't here I could escape and I started to fantasize about killing him."
Lesley, UK For more true stories CLICK HERE

It’s my fault.I keep making mistakes: STOP: Domestic Violence.


I made this Art with a thought that one day Domestic violence will be over...

"A very great vision is needed, and the person who has it must follow it, as the eagle seeks the deepest blue of the sky."
STOP: Domestic Violence AGAINST Women
Every six hours, a young married woman is burned, beaten to death or driven to commit suicide, officials say.

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Painful one for Shirley: Domestic Violence.


Their is always something in my mind that I'm just another human being. As i read this some where:
"Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared."

This truth is a painful one for Shirley and her husband Larry their daughter Margie was brutally murdered by the man who claimed to love her, Margie’s husband. “It’s easy to look back now and see the warning signs,” states Shirley. “But back then our family did not realize that the verbal attacks were escalating into physical assaults until it was too late.”

I ask you to have patience and compassion for victims of domestic violence. It is important to realize women stay with abusers for many reasons. Judging and placing blame on victims only drives them farther into silence. Please remember, leaving an abuser is not a decision, it’s a process. Stick it out, be supportive of your friend, family member or coworker. You may be their only hope.”

STOP: Domestic Violence AGAINST Women
Every six hours, a young married woman is burned, beaten to death or driven to commit suicide, officials say.

Overall, a crime against women is committed every three minutes in India, according to India's National Crime Records Bureau Read More...

Their is always Something in the new is happning:


I made this Beautiful Art Six Years ago. when i was studnt. . .
"Their is always Something in the new is happning in Our life. Anyways."
"It doesn't matter what you've been through, where you come from none of that matters. What matters is how you choose to love, how you choose to express that love through your work, through your family, through what you have to give to the world"

"light and shade
that allow one form to blend in with another leaving something to the imagination"

STOP: Domestic Violence AGAINST Women
Every six hours, a young married woman is burned, beaten to death or driven to commit suicide, officials say.

Overall, a crime against women is committed every three minutes in India, according to India's National Crime Records Bureau Read More...

Humans have to make the change,"Art can't




Their is not much i have to say but their is something i shoud say :
"Humans have to make the change,"Art can't."
"What can be shown, cannot be said." What a picture conveys, cannot be fixed by words. Words are a subjective proxy for a picture, a separate creation with a life of its own
.

1. Woman is more fitted than man to make exploration and take bolder action in nonviolence.
2. There is no occasion for women to consider themselves subordinate or inferior to man.
3. Woman is the companion of man, gifted with
equal mental capacity.
4. If by strength is meant moral power, then
woman is immeasurably man's superior.
5. If nonviolence is the law of our being, the
future is with women.
6. Woman, I hold, is the personification of self-sacrifice, but
unfortunately today she does not realize what tremendous advantage she has over man.

STOP: Domestic Violence AGAINST Women
Every six hours, a young married woman is burned, beaten to death or driven to commit suicide, officials say.

Overall, a crime against women is committed every three minutes in India, according to India's National Crime Records Bureau Read More...

45% of Indian girls married off before 18.


It’s a social ill that continues to shame India. Nearly 45% of women in the country, aged between 20 and 24, are married off before they reach 18, the legal age to marry. What’s worse, the number is over 50% in eight states।



Figures show:

1. 61% of women in Jharkhand were married off before 18,
2. 60% in Bihar,
3. 57% in Rajasthan,
4. 55% in Andhra Pradesh,
5. 53% each in Madhya Pradesh, Uttar Pradesh and West Bengal,
6. 52% in Chhattisgarh.

Lack of education was found to be a major factor fuelling this trend. Over 71% of women who got married below the age of 18 had received no education.

These are part of the findings of the latest National Family Health Survey-III, carried out in 29 states during 2005-06.



The survey, conducted by 18 research organisations, including five population research centres, and designed to collect and provide vital information on population, family planning, maternal and child health, child survival, nutrition of children and status of women, also unmasks another worrying trend. Six states — Arunachal Pradesh, Punjab, Mizoram, Sikkim, Tripura and West Bengal — which reported a lower percentage of under-18 marriages among women during the NFHS-II survey conducted in 1998-99, show an upward trend in NFHS-III. Officials say more and more women in these six states are being married off at the age of 15.



The survey, which interviewed 1,24,395 women and reported a response rate of 94.5%, shows that this social malady exists mostly in rural India. While 52.5% of the cases of under-18 marriages were found to be in rural areas, the number stood at 28.1% in urban India.



Some states, however, have shown a low prevalence of this practice. States like Goa, Himachal Pradesh, Manipur, Jammu and Kashmir, Kerala, Punjab, Delhi, Tamil Nadu, Uttarakhand and Meghalaya reported 12%-25% prevalence.

Top Most Powerful Women's Organizations






1) Catalyst Founded in 1962,


Catalyst is the leading research and advisory organization working with businesses and the professions to build inclusive environments and expand opportunities for women at work.



2) Center for Reproductive Rights Founded in 1992


The Center for Reproductive Rights uses the law to advance reproductive freedom as a fundamental right that all governments are legally obligated to protect, respect and fulfill.



3) Feminist Majority Foundation


The Feminist Majority Foundation works for social, political and economic equality for women by using research and education to improve women's lives.



4) Global Fund for Women


The Global Fund for Women, an international network of women and men committed to a world of equality and social justice, advocates for and defends women's human rights by making grants to support women's groups around the world.



5) Institute for Women's Policy Research


The Institute for Women's Policy Research conducts rigorous research and focuses on issues of poverty and welfare, employment and earnings, work and family issues, health and safety, and women's civic and political participation.



6)NARAL


NARAL Pro-Choice America is committed to advancing our shared values. We are committed to protecting the right to choose and electing candidates who will promote policies to prevent unintended pregnancy.



7) National Women's Political Caucus
The National Women's Political Caucus is a multicultural, intergenerational, and multi-issue grassroots organization dedicated to increasing women’s participation in the political process and creating a true women’s political power base to achieve equality for all women.

8)
National Organization for Women (NOW) Founding in 1966



The National Organization for Women (NOW) is the largest organization of feminist activists in the United States. Since its founding in 1966, NOW's goal has been to take action to bring about equality for all women.



9) Third Wave Foundation


The Third Wave Foundation helps support the leadership of young women ages 15 to 30 by providing resources, public education, and relationship building opportunities.

10) YWCA


The YWCA is the oldest and largest multicultural women's organization in the world. Our mission to eliminate racism and empower women. We provide safe places for women and girls, build strong women leaders, and advocate for women's rights and civil rights in Congress.

STOP Domestic Violence U may be their only hope



"A picture is worth a thousand words,"

“ I am a Jew. Hath not a Jew eyes ? Hath not a Jew hands, organs, dimensions, senses, affections, passions ? hurt with the same weapons, If you prick us, do we not bleed? if you poison us, do we not die? and if you wrong us, shall we not revenge ?.”

It is well documented that women who experience domestic violence can find it difficult to leave a violent relationship. The prospect of asking for help can be daunting for a woman who is feeling isolated, and whose self-esteem has been lowered by abuse. But is it more difficult for a disabled woman in a violent situation to seek help?

I ask you to have patience and compassion for victims of domestic violence. It is important to realize women stay with abusers for many reasons. Judging and placing blame on victims only drives them farther into silence. Please remember, leaving an abuser is not a decision, it’s a process. Stick it out, be supportive of your friend, family member or coworker. You may be their only hope.”

STOP: Domestic Violence AGAINST Women:
Every six hours, a young married woman is burned, beaten to death or driven to commit suicide, officials say.

Overall, a crime against women is committed every three minutes in India, according to India's National Crime Records Bureau Read More...

Unicef says domestic violence against women



"Every persom must decide whether he will walk in the creative light of altruism or the darkness of destructive selfishness. This is the judgement. Life's persistent and most urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?"

United Nations children's agency, Unicef, says domestic violence against women and girls worldwide remains an epidemic, despite international pledges five years ago to reduce the problem.

Unicef says in a report that in some countries, half the female population has suffered physical, sexual or mental abuse.

Sex-selective abortion, killings of baby girls and inferior access to food and medicine mean that there are 60 million fewer women in the world than there should be.



The bulk of that discrepancy occurs in South Asia, North Africa, the Middle East and China, Unicef said.

"Governments should ensure that there is no impunity for the perpetrators of domestic violence and that incidents of family violence are investigated and punished."

I ask you to have patience and compassion for victims of domestic violence. It is important to realize women stay with abusers for many reasons. Judging and placing blame on victims only drives them farther into silence. Please remember, leaving an abuser is not a decision, it’s a process. Stick it out, be supportive of your friend, family member or coworker. You may be their only hope.”

STOP: Domestic Violence AGAINST Women:
Every six hours, a young married woman is burned, beaten to death or driven to commit suicide, officials say.



Overall, a crime against women is committed every three minutes in India, according to India's National Crime Records Bureau Read More...

STOP: Domestic Violence AGAINST Women In India




A landmark new law seeking to protect women from domestic violence has come into effect in India.

The law also bans harassment by way of dowry demands and gives sweeping powers to a magistrate to issue protection orders where needed.


Punishment could range from a jail term of up to one year and/or a fine of up to 20,000 rupees ($450).


Every six hours, a young married woman is burned, beaten to death or driven to commit suicide, officials say.


Overall, a crime against women is committed every three minutes in India, according to India's National Crime Records Bureau.


Despite the scale of the problem, there had been no specific legislation to deal with actual abuse or the threat of abuse at home.


Domestic violence, under the new law, includes "actual abuse or the threat of abuse whether physical, sexual, emotional or economic," a statement from the federal ministry of women and child development said.



Wall of silence :


The law provides protection to the wife or live-in partner from violence at the hands of the husband or live-in partner or his relatives.


INDIA: CRIME AGAINST WOMEN
1.One crime against women every
3 minutes
2.
One rape every 29 minutes
3.One dowry death case every 77 minutes
4.One case of cruelty by husband and relatives every
9 minutes
Source
:
National Crime Records Bureau

Besides physical violence, the law also covers forcing a wife or partner to look at pornography.


"We have been trying for long to protect women from domestic violence. In India alone, around 70% of women are victim of these violent acts in one or the other form," junior minister for women and child development Renuka Chowdhury told the Press Trust of India news agency.


Women's activists have welcomed the law, although many say it is not perfect.


They say a bill alone will not help in preventing domestic abuse; what is needed is a change in mind sets.


A survey by the International Institute for Population Studies showed 56% of Indian women believed wife beating to be justified in certain circumstances.


The reasons varied from going out without the husband's permission to cooking a bad meal.


Domestic abuse is often denied by the victims themselves.

In figures:


1. Bangalore has witnessed hundred cases of dowry-related complaints. Some were freshly bruised, others have been starved for days and some fear that their husbands or in-laws will burn or strangle them to death.


2. According to the National Family Health Survey, one in five married women in India experiences domestic violence from the age of 15.


3. A nationwide survey shows that 52 per cent of women suffer at least one incident of physical or psychological violence in their lifetime.


4. Every six hours, a young married woman is burned alive, beaten to death, or driven to commit suicide.


5. It is estimated that more than 15,000 women suffer from dowry-related violence ever year.
6.
Rajasthan ranks sixth in the country in the arena of atrocities against women.


7. Kerala, the most literate state too is high on the graph of women abuse.


8. Independent women too are victims of domestic violence lately the case of Shweta Mahajan, a pilot married to Rahul Mahajan has come to the fore.


9. Of the women reporting violence, 50 percent were kicked, beaten or hit when pregnant. About 74.8 percent of the women who reported violence have attempted to commit suicide.


10. According to UN, two third married Indian women are victims of domestic violence.


"Compassion wherever there is suffering
Conviction that the compassion is strong enough to eliminate suffering
Courage to make this conviction a reality"

I remember just like its Yesterday.




As i drawn this Beautiful art work 2 years back.

I remember just like its Yesterday.

"Opposite a true statement is a false statement, but opposite a profound truth is another profound truth." The Persian poet Rumi wrote, "Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field. I'll meet you there."

STOP: Domestic Violence AGAINST Women


Every six hours, a young married woman is burned, beaten to death or driven to commit suicide, officials say.

Overall, a crime against women is committed every three minutes in India, according to India's National Crime Records Bureau Read More...

O'Yes i remember, i read this some were. . .



When i was making this Lovely art work what is that i was thinking.
O'Yes i remember, i read this some were. . .
"Think of the experience as a battery. You'll never charge up a dead battery if you don't have the cable attached to BOTH poles. It takes the right brain and left brain to give birth to a thought. The sperm and the egg to conceive a child. NEW LIFE, new thought, new creations come from the union of opposites"


STOP: Domestic Violence AGAINST Women:


Every six hours, a young married woman is burned, beaten to death or driven to commit suicide, officials say.
Overall, a crime against women is committed every three minutes in India, according to India's National Crime Records Bureau
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